Understand why we feel we are not enough!

APPRECIATION

1.  When we don’t feel appreciated, we withhold recognition. To come out of this, we need the courage to check with our partners if what he/she does to appreciate us, we interpret it as appreciation and vice-versa.

2. Let’s check our fundamental values, so we show appreciation in the way the other needs. We need to check what the point of the relationship for each of us is? For men, sex is showing appreciation for what they are and do. When sex is denied, they feel unappreciated.

WORTH DOING IT

Men need to feel what they do is worth doing, and that it will bring benefits. They need to feel inspired and motivated, and to be encouraged feeling some kind of expectation. Men get grumpy, cranky when they don’t have anything worth committing to. 

GATHERING AND HUNTING

Women provide by gathering and men by hunting, being committed to a specific result, intention, and this requires focus. (single focus) When a man is in the hunting mode, he screens out anything irrelevant. It causes a woman to feel not seen, heard, understood, and hurt when he is in that space.

Gathering mode is not focused, is expansive, open. Men get in this space when they are not committed to any task, and they feel safe. It allows them to be open, connected, and spontaneous, emotional, and it is when we fall in love with them.