PUNISHING MEN FOR NOT BEING WHAT WE WANT

WHEN WE PUNISH MEN FOR NOT BEING, AND DOING WHAT WE WANT

Men have layers and layers of protection towards criticism. Because their mother as well as schools and society have criticized them, devalued them. Made them feel bad for their instincts, weakening them to be able to handle them. Their hunter instinct is not honored and thus castrated.

CASTRATION

As a result of being castrated they respond: competing with us instead of supporting us. Seeing us with fear instead of trust. Treating us with disdain instead of respect. Maintaining their distance instead of allowing intimacy. Protecting themselves from us instead of protecting us because they cannot see us as the enemies and at the same time protect us.

Woman, are oriented towards being perfect, and they expects the same from a man. Perfection in his action but not as a man, "but as a perfect woman." When we become disillusioned, we attack them verbally. Devalue and castrate them by criticizing them, complaining, punishing them, comparing them. Weakening them so bad that they stop protecting or providing. We deprive them of their virile spirit, their strength, their vigo by trying to rehabiliate them. We take away what makes a man attractive "his strength" We do this mainly because we fear their strength.

By devaluing and castrating men, we diminish their ability to produce results, to provide and protect by sabotaging what we need and what attracts us to them. When they feel devalued, weak or change according to what we hope we are disappointed because it is no longer strong or attractive.

SUMMARY:

We are angry to see him weak and as much as we want to change it, we do not want him to have all his strength as we are afraid since he is full of testosterone.
The purpose of devaluing them is because we fear that they have power, strength, freedom, because we want them to behave under the ideals of an ideal woman and not a man. We want to have them chained. We feel that we have an obligation to reprimand and punish man for not behaving like an ideal woman would behave.
All this behavior is unconscious and automatic from the survival brain, the reptilian.
Complaining and not being satisfied is a way of drilling man, giving him the problem without really wanting to solve the problem. By showing them we are dissatisfied and complaining we think they will try more to please us, but this is NOT true. They give up.
To compare them positively or negatively provokes an equally disastrous result. My dad, my ex, my friend, my brother etc.
Retract admiration, trust, appreciation, attention, sex, indifference, not trusting that they can do something, behaving like the boss micro managing, interrupting, raising their eyes.
We only appreciate perfection, not effort so we do not appreciate what they can provide an give and make the effort because we expect perfection. Never is enough!

ATTENTION

If there is no attention there is no relationship. For a man, attention is equal to the relationship, you are not connected, nothing is happening. We are not feeding the tree and most of the women give negative attention and they endure it because they prefer that to no attention.

Ignore because you are so insignificant.
Interrupt because what you say does not interest me.
Joke with fraud to change.
When we try to be the best man and send the message of why I need you. Let's ask ourselves Why do I need a man?
Its biology seeks to be efficient, effective, intelligent.

CONSEQUENCES OF CASTRATION

We attack, we castrate them, and they lose their ability to act, create communicate and think. Making them angry, because we incite the most primitive defense in man and blame them for being non-evolved animals.

As a result of being castrated they respond: competing with us instead of supporting us, seeing us with fear instead of trust. Treating us with disdain instead of respect. Keeping your distance instead of allowing intimacy. Protecting themselves instead of protecting us. As men are single focus they protect themselves from us instead of protecting and providing for us. We lose their trust, respect strength and power and devotion.

SHAME

If you are feeling embarrassed for doing all the above, “you are a good person, and you are ashamed when you do not honor your highest values.

When we dishonor our highest values we disconnect ourselves from our being. Any place where we have failed and we have damaged someone, that's where the shame comes from and we do not want to see it or feel it.

When we are ashamed it is so inspiring because we are living up to our highest values. Men feel very embarrassed because they do not satisfy us.

Forgive is: return to risk again to open yourself ;love and give again. Noble forgiveness is an act of greatness as to open yourself to give and admit fault, to reunite with yourself.

ASKING FOR FORGIVENES AND FORGIVING OURSELVES.

We have been also damaged by castration, and we need to heal and restoreg that injured part. Lets say:

“I'm sorry for all the moments I emasculated the man because I were scared and afraid.
Sorry for all the moments I emasculated a man because I was frustrated, disappointed, angry, hurt, disrespected, helpless, powerless, disconnected. Because I did not feel safe, not appreciated, I not feel protected, not taken care of. That I was not a priority, not loved, for having no alternative.
Sorry because I did not know another way to protect myself, to communicate. I did not know another way to obtain what it was I needed.
Sorry for all the things that MY idealized image told me that I was too much or too little. And that I assume that a man did not act as I need because I have something wrong.
Sorry you feel I am not valuable or worthy of respect and care. I am sorry for putting your need above mine because of my biological need to be protected and chosen.
Sorry for resenting you for that.
Sorry for how by comparing myself with an ideal woman has cost my dreams to love, to relax and celebrate, “I am very sorry!”.