Differences between romanticism and true Love

Differences between romantic and true love

With this diagram, I try to synthesize something of what the Pathwork and the Course of Miracles speak in relation to the differences of infantile love to true Love. I hope it will help us find the guide to connect with the courage to Love each day more and get out of the illusion and expectation of what love is.

This structure is created as a result of: meditation, journaling, prayer, contemplation; with the tools of The Path to the Center.

The person who loves from. "THE ROMANTICISM” .	The person who loves from "THE TRUE WILL TO LOVE” .
He/She feels he has found his better half and hopes that this fusion moment will last forever. As soon as it passes, there is the resistance to love and the disqualification of the other.	Understands that the infatuation and connection you feel in the beginning is the gift that allows you to experience magic, fusion and love. He/She knows what will happen but keeps the memory of this feeling so that it motivates him /her to continue because He/She recognizes how special the other is for the simple fact of having opened his heart.
He/She wants the other to be perfect.	Understands that the other's shortcomings show Him/Her the aspects of himself that he/she needs to work on.
It demands that the couple nourish it, fill it and make it happy.	He/She is grateful for the relationship because he/she knows that it has been assigned to them for the development of the soul.
He/She wants to control and force the other to do His/Her will by manipulating away or attacking him.	It gives the other's freedom to give him/her what they want. He/She puts himself in the hands of God and asks for help to honor and learn.
Interprets reality according to their history, their programs, their images and does not really see the other. Just reacts and takes it all personally.	He/She understands that the other is not doing what he/she does to annoy and is open to re-interpreting the situation and not seeing it based on the wounds and programs.
He/She is thinking all the time about the faults of the other and how to find another person that satisfies him better.	He/She thinks that the other is beautiful and perfect and blesses Him/Her during the day and asks for help to love him.
He/She feels insecure, empty, hungry and wants the other to reaffirm and fill Him/Her.	He/She feels self-assured within their skin and does not need to control the other to make them feel safe.
Idealize the relationship and the other, and is full of expectations.	He/She does not bring the past to this moment and only wants to bless the other and be blessed by the other.
He/She prepares for the attack when he/she begins to see that the other is not perfect and is on the defensive, very demanding or detaches himself being indifferent to punish.	Appreciates and accepts what the other can give and be.
Blames the other all the time for apparently having been betrayed, deceived, abandoned when the other just did not meet their expectations	He/She is responsible and forgiven for the moments when he/she escapes, refuses, falls short, attacks, does not respect, flees, closes, has no mercy, gets bored, tires and abandons the other.
Assaults, defends himself, feels like the victim and puts the other as the villain for not being as He/She wants and seeks to run away to find someone else.	He/She asks for forgiveness for not knowing how to love, for having defended himself, for having blamed, for not having listened or seen the other. For behaving like a child and lacking in courage and patience. Ask for help to stay, to learn to love.
He/She believes that the relationship is for the other to make him happy.	Understand that the relationship is to learn to love and let go of expectations and control in order to unite with the other.
He/She does not support seeing the other as he is and wants to change it.	Release the expectation of how the other should be and ask for help to learn to love unconditionally and for forgiveness to prevail.
He/She cannot bear to feel the pain, the vulnerability and the fear of having an open heart.	Ask for help to have the courage to love and help to remove the blockages, fears and resistance you have to love.
He/She has ideas of revenge, punishments that provoke rancor separation and power games.	Ask the other to be blessed, happy and loved, and thank him for being.
Feel that without the other is, he/she is nothing, or anyone. He/She panics to lose the other and thus wants to control him/her.	Understand that what is missing in your relationship is precisely what you are not giving to the other. "What he does not give me is what I do not give."
He/She wants the other to complete him/her, fill all his needs and feels that if the other does not give it, thinks that the other is doing this deliberately as an attack towards the other.	He/She focuses on what the other can give, thanks, and is compassionate. Try to see innocence in the other and understand that the other may not.
He/She is an irresponsible thief who believes that the relationship should fulfill all his expectations.	Understand that the relationship is a hospital to heal the worst aspects of himself. What is to overcome the area where you do not feel enough and that something is missing.
He/She gives to receive.	He/She gives for the pleasure of giving, and thank the other for inspiring him to give and to open his heart.